When dating someone new, have you heard comments like “don’t be negative or your new boyfriend won’t like it and may end your relationship”? Or how about “put your best foot forward” because if you don’t he or she won’t like you and could easily dump you for someone else.
Sarah (not her real name) is 21 and has been reserved and shy throughout her life. Sarah likes her new boyfriend Tim (not his real name) 22 who is more outspoken and comes up with things to do on the weekends and evening when they can be together.
Sarah thinks she is being self-centered if she talks about what she likes to do. She likes Tim to initiate activities. Slowly after three months, Sarah is feeling less reserved and now telling Tim what she likes to do on weekends. [Read more…]